Thoughts: What Do You Care What Other People Think? – Richard Feynman

To me, this book didn’t meet the colossal standards of entertainment and intrigue presented by Surely You’re Joking Mr. Feynman but I read it anyway. It gets quite technical with the descriptions which demanded keen attention I did not possess the patience for while reading but the tone and character of Feynman that I loved through his previous book existed in the lines here as well- albeit in a more serious setting.

One line that resonated strongly with me came up in the very last page of the book:
“If we suppress all discussion, all criticism, proclaiming, “This is the answer, my friend; man is saved!” we will doom humanity for a long time to the chains of authority, confined to the limits of our present imagination.”

What a pithy way to summarise so many evils we have in our society today.

– Swathi Chandrasekaran
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A TFI quick look at L-2: Murphy’s law comes alive at school

It was my third last day (L-2), and I couldn’t have been more excited about it. I slept late after watching the world cup semis in all my over-confidence and woke up in grogginess and daze after 5 hours of sleep to learn that my TFI Fellow had urgent work to get to outside school and that she would be taking permission for half the day. I returned to sleep.

I woke up an hour later, almost exactly with the time necessary to get to school before the gates shut me out with a bunch of late-comers (mostly wailing kindergarten kids whose parents- relieved in seeing a teacher, promptly drop them off with us outside and leave us surrounded by bawling red-faced babies). Luckily today- a phrase you will not come across again in this article, I got to school on time.

1) Cold, a sore throat and walking in a rained over Chennai neighborhood is never a great idea. I got to school with my sandals drenched, but hey! I got there in time.

2) I’d hardly had the time or the mental composure to think of a solid work plan for the class, so I had to wing most of the day out.

3) My usually quiet class decides today to take full advantage of my growing softness (attributed to my emotions of leaving school that I’d mentioned in an earlier post) and the absence of their Fellow. Let’s take a moment to give them due credit for their smartness here.

4) My Fellow couldn’t make it to school at all today, a news I received in bits and pieces and had had no contingency plans made for.

5) Two kids I’d chided for misbehavior in class gave me a late reaction during lunch. One refused to eat his food, moped in class in front of me and ignored my stream of pleas, threats, shouts and jokes.

6) The other sat outside with her friends and cried her way through lunch.

7) Smart and starving me decided to blackmail the first kid in a way that in hindsight makes no sense. I declared to skip my lunch unless he ate his. He didn’t.

8) After ten minutes of apologizing to the crying kid about telling her off for her misbehaviour, I came to learn that she was in fact not crying about my actions at all. She had a headache, which she coughed up between her long weeps and moans that had misled me in the first place.

9) The first kid often tries to eavesdrop on conversations, which I had to chide him for doing right now. He returned to his state of sulking.

10) The class-teacher for 3rd grade (the class next to mine) was on leave and their substitute teacher had left her class of 40 happy kids alone to eat. Every five minutes, I checked in on that class to more often than not find a cluster of tiny creatures rolling on the floor in their fights.

11) Any attempts at screaming at the 3rd standard kids were severely hampered by the little large eyed, black-ribboned girl (that I mentioned in my previous article) staring at me with her eyes wide and curious. I didn’t want to become her devil…

12) My fasting kid finally decided to give up on his threats and left to eat- 5 minutes before lunch was to end. I opened my box in a sigh of relief.

13) I’d always tried to play the nice teacher while my Fellow handles all the cruelties demanded of this job. Shifting roles is incredibly difficult. A kid of mine who usually keeps his head down at work began making complaints at every 5 minute interval, and strangely denied any complaints against him. Even the ones made by me.

Student 1: Miss! This boy is kicking me miss.
Kid in question: No miss…I didn’t do anything. Ask X if you have doubts on me.
Student 2: Miss! This boy is singing.
Kid in question: No miss…I didn’t do anything. Ask X if you have doubts on me.
Me: Santhosh! Why is your leg on the table?!
Kid in question: No miss…I didn’t do anything. Ask X if you have doubts on me.
Me: But I just saw your legs on the table Santhosh…
Kid in question: No miss…I didn’t do anything. Ask X if you have doubts on me.

This looped around for the entire day.

The day ended with a highly fatigued me giving over 200 tired high 5s to half the school, dragging kids by their bags to get them to leave after dispersal, answering irate permanent staff questions on administration work I had no clue about and in a general cloud of confusion, noise and turbulent emotions ranging from a despair of leaving to the relief of finding the outside world bereft of high pitched screams of ‘Misssss’.

 

– Swathi Chandrasekaran
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Another TFI experience: A gesture of heart-melting tenderness- from an 8 year old

My TFI intern experience ends this Friday, and while there are dozens and dozens of precious instances I will cherish forever, there’s one particular event that made me recognize the potential of children to knock me off my feet through their compassion. That a moment of tenderness from an eight year old could make me want to buckle at my knees and cry. This is an event I couldn’t not write about, and I hope I do due justice in this piece so you can understand the gravity of this simple gesture.

I have a kid in my class whose younger sister studies in grade 3 (7-8 years old). On my first day of school when I met this sweetheart, she was a cute, dark skinned, wide-eyed beauty with black ribbons that matched the depth of the black in her innocent eyes. Her hair is double braided and tied up and she carries a schoolbag that always looks too heavy on her. She was, in most ways, indistinguishable from the other 30 odd kids in her class at first glance.

Over the course of the thirty days I spent at this school, I grew to learn more about her. I learnt to love her reservedness and kindness, and grew intensely distraught over her ailment that is so far untreated. In just about two weeks, this beautiful sweetheart of an angel developed a limp that’s been becoming further and further pronounced. Today, it might just be the first thing you notice about her. Before the depth of her black eyes, the immaculateness of the tied ribbons or how the weight of her bag looks like it might just topple her over any moment now.

That isn’t the crux of this narrative, though. That was just the background of this little eight year old I am going to talk about here.

Kids in school seem to have a lot of birthdays. Since the day I joined, there has hardly been a day that I haven’t received a chocolate from a student. As dictated by my own version of a diet, I promptly set the candy aside to be forgotten about, and later hand it over to whichever kid I see first after school.

It so happened that on three consecutive days, I had handed over my bounty to this little kutti of mine. These chocolates ranged from Eclairs to larger Perk and expensive looking truffles, and each time I held the chocolate in my arm out for her, she’d shake her head in a quiet no- rejecting my offer until I offered it again. While this always touched me, I never paid too much heed to it. This kid had always been shy.

On the fourth day, she seemed shyer than ever. She’d come to my class right at dispersal and was looking for me with a tiny smile on her lips and her innocent eyes peering up at me with a delight I hadn’t yet understood. I reached to pull out a tiny Caramel chocolate I had in my purse. When I looked at her, she was holding something out in her hand for me. Out on her tiny little open palm was a large Dairy Milk. I didn’t understand at first.

“Is it your birthday today kutti!”
She smiled a little more, never saying a word. She shook her head to imply her characteristic quiet no.
“She bought it for you, miss” came a voice from her sister. My kid nodded in acceptance, in her quiet, mesmerizing way.

It was a twenty rupees chocolate, from a kid who doesn’t get chocolates often at home. From a kid whose classmate searched in agony for her missing slipper for over an hour after school, knowing that without it she’d not have shoes for a month. From a kid who walks home everyday with a slight limp in her leg that hasn’t been checked by a doctor yet. She held out the chocolate with her eyes wide open, melting my heart in one moment of acute agony, gut wrenching ache and immense pride all at once. I had to ask her to treat herself with tears in my eyes, watch as she advanced to join her father at the portico of school and point me out to him with a beam on her face. She left me so easily with an incident I will hauntingly remember with an ache each time I look back at this month.

I buy chocolates for her now everyday. I probably shouldn’t, but I have just a week left with this angel and I can’t not see the beam on her little face everyday.

– Swathi Chandrasekaran

June, 2018

Where? CMS Arumbakkam Corporation School

A lot of these kids struggle with basic amenities that we take for granted, and anything you contribute towards their education will definitely go a tremendous way through the immense care taken by TFI and other similarly amazing NGOs. If you’re even a tiny bit interested, do check out their website to find out how you can help!

 

 

A TFI experience: How (and how not!) to reason with 10 year olds

On the twenty second day of June, I handled a class of sixth graders by myself for the third time- by now I’d achieved a sense of calm and confidence about doing this- almost a reassurance in my capacity to handle whatever the class decides to deal out to me. First it was a bunch of boys behaving like the little miscreants they could be, on the second occasion a few girls decided to challenge me with a case of strange emotional turbulence and crying about fights with their best-friends. I survived those- battered but brave. Today I was about to receive their third practical testing- ‘How does she deal with illness?’.

I walked into class after their morning assembly, expecting a mellowed, exhausted-by-the-week-Friday-morning-class that is looking forward to their weekend. Instead, I entered chaos. The prospect of two days off spurs these kids on like nothing else. As I walked in, voices from every corner threw sentences at me. Three of the thirty kids have fever but if you’d heard the complaints, you’d think all of them did. It’s amazing how easy it is to perform behaviour analysis here. Take for example a classic case of Chinese whispers gone astray-

“Misss I think X has fever!”

“Miss, X has fever!”

“Missss X is crying because he has fever!”

“MISS X IS NOT ABLE TO LOOK UP. HIS HEAD ACHES AND HE HAS FEVER”.

“MISS. CAN YOU GO SEE HIM MISS!”

(I’ll go get tablets, I’ll go get water, I’ll go call his parents, his house is near mine were some of the tangential responses I heard)

On inspection I found that the said X had not been crying, did not seem to possess a headache and in fact, did not have fever at all- he’d bent down to pick up a pen and in the process of it, had unknowingly started his claim to thirty seconds of fame.

The inspection took just about a minute. I ensured that neither he nor any of his bench buddies had a life threatening or worse – class peace threatening ailment and before I could turn I heard a round  of this:

“Misss I think X has fever!”

“Miss, X has fever!”

“Missss X is crying because she has fever!”

“MISS X IS NOT ABLE TO LOOK UP. HER HEAD ACHES AND SHE HAS FEVER”.

“MISS. CAN YOU GO SEE HER MISS!”

By now I knew I couldn’t afford to do this all day. I enquired from my spot, first catching a hooligan who’d transported half the class away from his bench and was just about to attempt a pull up off a stray rope hanging on the battered, messy old corporation school walls. With a few quick questions, I was able to discern that the girl in question actually did have a fever- now what’s the procedure?!

I began with the easy ones, for which all her answers sank my heart inch by inch.

1) Did you have breakfast?

Yes.

2) Did you take tablets?

Yes. (I didn’t possess any emergency tablets in any case, so I was secretly glad she said Yes)

3) Do you want to go home?

No. (I had no idea if I had the permission to send her home. I was a temporary teacher at this highly government regulated corporation school)

4) Do you want to sleep in class?

No.

NOW WHAT.

Then I began reasoning with her, a luxury I could afford since she was one of the smarter, more mature beings in class. After a few minutes of logical studyof the situation, she agreed to sleep. I had literally just convinced a girl to go to sleep in class while I taught. It seemed counter-intuitive to me, but after three weeks with ten year olds I’ve started to lose a grip on my trust in intuition anyway.

For now, it’s sorted. She’s sleeping on the floor in one corner of class and no one seems to be in a hurry to wake her up or throw stuff at her. I’m holding my breath on this one.

 

–  Swathi Chandrasekaran

Where? CMS Arumbakkam, Chennai

When? 22nd June 2018

Can you help? Of course you can! Look into TFI or any other NGO that is doing amazing work helping the less privileged and do whatever you can in your capacity to add on to it!

Gridversed

The following image is my response to a reddit prompt on writing a piece designed as a matrix. Read across each row and down each column to get 6 different perspectives of powerful female characters from fictional realms we know and love! I had immense fun writing it, as would you reading it granted you know the worlds of Harry Potter, A Song of Ice and Fire and BBC’s Sherlock.

– Swathi Chandrasekaran

Both those shadows are mine

Have you read The Strange Case of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde and felt a sinking tightness of a knot in your belly as you begin to relate to the mad mad protagonist? I did, and this is a small ode to the piece of art that made me question concepts of sanity, anger and mental balance.

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– Swathi Chandrasekaran, Advait Nair, Maanasa Vijayasarathy and Porvika Bala; Designed by Siva Prakash (As a part of Team Feeds- NIT Trichy’s Official Media House)
To read more interesting pieces such as these, do check out the amazing work done by Team Feeds right here!

Tears and Time

Tears and time

It was more than I could take,

I could see it in the photos- from the red, teary face.

I was three, and I was in grief- I’d been woken up too rashly.

And it had been more than I could take.

 

So I’d let the tears flow, time do its job.

Cleanse my palette clean of damage and begin the art once more.

I could take it, then.

 

It was more than I could take, Tears and time_5

When I kicked my brother to what I thought was an instant death,

I cried then, my scream tangled with his shrieks of agony,

I was seven, I’d just learnt the pain of guilt-

And it was more than I could take.

 

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So the tears flowed, time did its wonders,

Soon enough we were fighting with spoons and scissors.

I could take it, then.

 

 

 

It was more than I could take when I heard of my grandpa’s demise.

It was more than I could take when I heard my grandma had followed him.

It was more than I could take each time and every time tears did their miracles.

Each time, time was there to stitch and save me.

Each time I learnt the ache of a new grief, each time it turned into muscle memory.

 

It is more than I can take,

Losing a part of life I thought was there to stay,

But now I know what I have to do-

 

Curl up in silence, roll into the loneliness,

Let the knots in my stomach weigh me down,

Let the tears flow, let the time pass,

Let some magic and miracles occur and things get darned back together.

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(Art inspired by drawingartistic.com)

 

 

Double Negatives

Doubling a negation hasn’t never been done,

Ominous and threatening, wouldn’t never leave the meaning undone.

Under the words, it neither never adds class to a clause;

Beneath the bottom, nor not incite pleasure to a pause.

Lost it has- it’s never absent glory,

Ever twisting the tale, can’t never not complete the story.

Neither meets its never, as nor meets its not;

Ever never divulging to ones that know nothing about.

Granting passion in tone, never dismissing the disdain in voice;

Allowing time to rethink, never not hold to a choice.

Though it hasn’t never added confusion,

Impaling judgement, not never plaguing precision.

Vicious in its visions, hold the double negative with reverence;

Eluding doesn’t never aid, allude neither never nor not.

26/7/2014